Giving much-needed, nonjudgmental advice can be transforming — but one of the simplest and most powerful things you can do for another person is simply to listen.
Particularly now that we live surrounded by stimuli that is begging for our attention, the gift of giving someone your undivided attention is beyond precious. Anything that we can do to cultivate this ability within ourselves will improve our relationships, mental health, and overall sense of ease in the world.
I heard a customer’s name today and looked it up when I got off. It was beautiful and seemed to speak to me. So I looked it up and it is Ghanaian in origin. I mean this is a long shot, but what if my ancestors are from Ghana and that’s why the name resonates with me so much. Doing the most or nah?
“Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough.”—Ernest Hemingway (via eclait)
“Learning to set and maintain boundaries around your body, privacy, belongings, emotions and time is not about keeping other people out. It’s actually the exact opposite. It’s about establishing clear guidelines so that you can let people in without being smothered by them.”—Nina Funnell (via liquid-diamonds-flowing)
“Small talk makes me feel the way I do when a mosquito is buzzing around my head — irritated — and then finally unable to get any relief I just slaughter the damn thing. I slaughter the moment by saying something real.”—bell hooks, Wounds of Passion: A Writing Life (via xuron)