If you want to truly understand someone find out their motives.
Something that causes someone to act in a certain way or do a certain thing = a motive
You will be surprised at what you find within people and what you don’t.
I had some interesting thoughts while washing dishes. I was thinking about fathers and how important it is for them to teach their children to finish what they start. Actions speak louder than words on this one. A father can easily show his children to finish what he/she starts by adressing his responsibilities in the family he started…..By showing true love. In some families we see the father abandon his responsibilities for whatever reason and leave a gaping hole in the child’s life. Fathers are so important to the family dynamic. I hope that all the fathers out there are teaching their sons/daughters to be people that finish what they start and to seek individuals who do the same. Fathers are to be celebrated. We need more real fathers. Its never to late to be in your childs life & I cant think of anything that can bring you more joy. Food for thought…..
The US and Australia with the outstanding 0 days or weeks of mandated paid maternity leave.
Well as you can see, I tried to make this easier to read and then gave up. Anyways. Yeah. America and Australia are the only countries on the list without mandated paid maternity leave. (I notice North Korea isn’t on there — we probably don’t have access to that information given that it’s North Korea and everything. Anyone know?)
In America, we have the PDL and the FMLA.
PDL. Pregnancy Disability Leave (PDL) which entitles you up to four months of unpaid, job-protected leave when disabled by pregnancy, childbirth, or a related medical condition.
FMLA.Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 (FMLA) if you have been employed with the Company for at least one year, provides up to 12 weeks job protected leave.
So you get a few unpaid months off if you gave birth, and they can’t legally hire someone to replace you. But that’s about it. Shameful, America.
I like that some of the countries allow for paid paternity leave too. Thats bad ass.
2. The very real hardships endured by many gays and lesbians cannot fairly be compared with the monstrous suffering endured by African Americans. Conservative gay journalist Charles Winecoff wrote, “Newsflash: blacks in America didn’t start out as hip-hop fashion designers; they were slaves. There’s a big difference between being able to enjoy a civil union with the same sex partner of your choice – and not being able to drink out of a water fountain, eat at a lunch counter, or use a rest room because you don’t have the right skin color.”
Today, we have openly gay members of Congress, openly gay celebrities, openly gay CEO’s, openly gay financial gurus, openly gay sports stars, openly gay Hollywood moguls, and openly gay college professors, bestselling authors, scientists, and on and on. In the days of segregation in America, there were few, if any, blacks in such prominent positions, not to mention the fact that in many cities in America, even the lynching of blacks was accepted. Where in America are gays and lesbians being lynched today with societal approval? And what is the LGBT equivalent to the American slave trade?
FOR THE WHITE PERSON WHO WANTS TO KNOW HOW TO BE MY FRIEND
By: Pat Parker
The first thing you do is to forget that I’m black. Second, you must never forget that I’m black.
You should be able to dig Aretha, but don’t play her every time I come over. And if you decide to play Beethoven — don’t tell me his life story. They make us take music appreciation, too.
Eat soul food if you like it, but don’t expect me to locate your restaurants or cook it for you.
And if some Black person insults you, mugs you, rapes your sister, rapes you, rips your house or is just being an ass — please, do not apologize to me for wanting to do them bodily harm. It makes me wonder if you’re foolish.
And even if you really believe Blacks are better lovers than whites — don’t tell me. I start thinking of charging stud fees.
In other words — if you really want to be my friend — don’t make a labor of it. I’m lazy. Remember.
From Movement in Black by Pat Parker. Copyright(c) 1978 by Pat Parker.
For some us the words “Tuskegee Airmen” do not go far without remembering the “Tuskegee Experiment.” It is very difficult to separate these two pivotal events in African American history. Anthropologically speaking, the questions I have, are how do histories of pride and shame affect culture, specifically HipHop (African American)?
On one hand, we have the Tuskegee Airmen, a group of men who exhibited tremendous courage and pride while fighting foreign enemies in the air and domestic enemies on the ground. On the other hand we have over 600 people who became the source of syphilis in the African American community for generations as a result of the government-sanctioned Tuskegee Experiment. While the story of brave fighters has inspired generations of people who are confronted with discrimination, oppression, racism and sexism to become airplane pilots; the systematic infection of African Americans between 1932 and 1972, has impaired generations of people with paralysis, blindness, dementia and shame. HipHop and all the other African societies, on the African continent and throughout the diaspora, oral history is stronger than any print, visual or digital media. Not only are folk tales, songs and poetry transcribed from one generation to the next, but entire histories of peoples, nations and events are accounted for as well. Other than just names, places and dates, historical particularism helps account for the emotions and feelings that are emphasized in storytelling and cultural development.
The Tuskegee Airmen have always been talked about in the barbershops, church services and one-on-one conversations with elder veterans who are still alive to tell these stories from their own personal experiences. More than the any media or public education source, oral histories is where the pride is really transported between generations. These examples help children and adults hold their heads up high with knowledge of the past that encourages them to move forwards in the faces of adversity. Educational systems (mainstream and independent) and curricula are instated to provide further encouragement. The good stories become the benchmark for “Black History Month” every year.
The genealogists, family historian and black people who are interested in “tracing their roots; uncovered these stories, simply by talking to the elders in their families and communities. These researchers have no problem extracting the prideful stories, but when it comes to the painful or shameful stories it’s always a “family secret”. The “V.D.” as it was so colorfully referred to was only the beginning of the battles with sexually transmitted diseases in many HipHop communities in the southern and northern United States. The definitions, symptoms and treatment of STD’s are widely discussed in the health classes in both mainstream and independent educational systems. It is always the talk of the town, the beauty shops. Everyone wants to know who got what and from whom. In many cases, people who have and are infected will not talk about it openly and may even keep the information from their sexual partners. It is so shameful, that people will carry these secrets to their graves, allowing other people in the community to remain unaware of the dangers of sexually transmitted disease from a first-hand account.
Although it is not known if any of the Tuskegee Airmen actually had syphilis, but it is very plausible considering the large base of infected people at the time. Keep in mind there were no positive treatments until the 1970’s. Furthermore the stories and oral accounts will always focus on the courage and pride of these men, but if any one of them was infected with the disease, before or after the war, it will be kept as a “family secret” and not rendered to the historical or public record.
Where is the real historical lesson in that? If we are only feeding ourselves with joy, we are doing the children and ourselves a major disservice, because joy and pain are one in the same. Pride does not exist without shame. Yeah let’s tell the children that there were great airplane pilots who fought in World Ward II, but let’s also tell them about the history and origin of sexually transmitted diseases in African American communities.
Let’s tell the stories to install pride. Let’s tell the stories to reduce shame.
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favourite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love
Here is a list of 26 life lessons I have learned thus far at the age of 26. I pass this list on to you witHere is a list of 26 life lessons I have learned thus far at the age of 26. I pass this list on to you with the simple hope that it makes you think. Sometimes thinking about your life and sorting out what you have learned is just as important as tackling a new venture.
Being an adult can be fun when you are acting like a child.
Love has nothing to do with looks, but everything to do with time, trust, and interest.
Laughing, crying, joy and anger… All are a vital. All make us human.
The greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple, steady awareness.
Greed will bury even the lucky eventually.
Bad things do happen to good people.
Paving your own road is intelligent only if nobody has gone exactly where you are going.
Uncertainty is caused by a lack of knowledge. Hesitation is the product of fear.
Time heals all wounds… regardless of how you feel right now.
Most of the time what you are looking for is right in front of you.
Your health is your life.
Chance is a gift, so act on chance when given the opportunity.
Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.
People deserve a second chance, but not a third.
Marry your best friend.
Take lots of pictures. Someday you’ll be really glad you did.
Money makes life easier only when the money is yours free and clear.
Carelessness is the root of failure
Your actions now create memories you will reminisce and talk about in your elder years.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone will put things into perspective from an angle you can’t grasp now.
Motivation comes in short bursts. Act while it’s hot.
Purposely ignoring the obvious is like walking backwards toward the enemy.
Taking ownership of failure builds the foundation for success.
First impressions are completely worthless 50% of the time.
Charles Denby was a Black auto production worker who grew up in rural Alabama and came north to Detroit with many other young Black men in the 1920s to work in the auto factories. He became involved in race and class struggles and was recruited into the Trotskyist movement. He quickly discovered the increasing division between rank-and-file labor and the union bureaucracy and refused to become a part of the union leadership. During the 1950s he chose to work with Raya Dunayevskaya and remained with her through several organizational splits. Their experiences led him to accept editorship of NEWS & LETTERS when it was founded in 1955 because he “felt strongly that there was an imperative need for A NEW KIND of workers’ paper” (emphasis added).(2) His column “Worker’s Journal” appeared on the front page of each issue until his death in 1983.
What does it mean to say “Workers as revolutionary thinkers?” First, Denby’s experiences as an African-American Southern farmer and autoworker had given him a desire for freedom that was total. He fought a life-long battle against the fragmentation of himself that capitalism forces upon us all. In Marxist-Humanism Denby helped develop a philosophy of liberation which in turn helped him develop and concretize his drive to be a full human being. Marxist-Humanism strives toward Marx’s vision of a society centered on human needs and capacities. Denby understood how alienating capitalist society is and how totally it must be uprooted for a better world to begin.
Denby’s writings, as he was the first to insist, reflect dialogues, discussions, debates with other workers. His was an individualism that always retained his awareness of connection to the mass movement, or as Hegel had put it, “individualism that lets nothing interfere with its universality, or freedom.” In the pamphlet WORKERS BATTLE AUTOMATION written in 1960, Charles Denby is the primary author, but brought in other workers to tell their own stories and share their own views, often differing from his own, of automation in steel, light manufacturing, and even offices. This is indeed revolutionary in a society where workers are supposed to be ignorant and unwilling to think.
"A unique combination of worker and intellectual"— this is not only a principle of Marxist-Humanist journalism and organization, but a description of Charles Denby himself. The stories of his life that make up his autobiography, INDIGNANT HEART: A BLACK WORKER’S JOURNAL are not abstract discussions about philosophy. Philosophy is present throughout.
In 1943 after returning South, Denby came to Detroit again to find a better-paying job in the auto factories:
They had recently had a stoppage because Negroes were put in that department…
I said [to Wide, Denby’s roommate], “How come? Isn’t there a union now?”…
Wide said, “The union doesn’t mean everything to Negroes that some people think”…
The employment office was practically filled. I met up with a white fellow from Tennessee who had just come to Detroit… He asked me what I was going to ask for.
I told him riveting.
He said he didn’t know the names of any jobs and would ask for the same thing. He’d never been North before or in a plant. He was in the line behind me.
When I reached the desk I asked the man for riveting. He told me that there weren’t any riveting jobs. He asked if I had riveted before.
I said, yes, in Mobile, on bridges and in shipyards. I was lying to him but wanted to get the job.
He said that was an altogether different kind of riveting and that my experience wouldn’t apply. If I wanted to learn, he could send me to the school and they would pay me sixty cents an hour. He said he had a laboring job open, it only paid eighty-seven cents an hour… The man promised I might get on another job in a day or two that paid more…
I waited for the fellow from Tennessee… He said they had given him a job, riveting. “And I just come in from the field.”
I asked him if he had said that he had experience or if they mentioned going to school.
He said, no.
I got kinda mad and went back to the man at the desk. He said he was busy and that he had given me the last available job.(3)
Denby’s story reveals the persistence and depth of the racism even unionized workers confronted. It also points a direction for overcoming it: dialogue between white and Black workers that all with a stake in systemic racism strive so hard to prevent.
Denby continued to struggle against injustice in the shop, fighting for Black women workers to be given jobs in the sewing department. He insisted that there be no compromise on full integration, and that the Communist Party’s support for the “no-strike pledge,” which the government had convinced the union leadership to agree to in support of the war effort, would only hurt workers.
Throughout the 1940s and 1950s Denby continued to write about the increasing gap between the union bureaucracy and rank-and-file union members. Racism continued unremittingly and profoundly to drive a wedge between white and Black workers and limit their power to challenge the direction of the union leadership. Denby recounts his experiences with the Communist and Trotskyist parties during this period, where he sought for Blacks and all workers to be treated as full, thinking human beings.
State Attorney Angela Corey, appointed as a special prosecutor in the February shooting death of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, has decided against sending the case to a grand jury, her office said Monday.
“The decision should not be considered a factor in the final determination of the case,” Corey’s office said in a statement.
The grand jury, set to convene on Tuesday, was previously scheduled by the former prosecutor.
Corey previously said she has not used grand jury’s in cases like this and added that from the time she was appointed she said she may not need a grand jury.
The decision about whether or not to charge George Zimmerman in the case now rests with prosecutors.
“At this time, the investigation continues and there will be no further comment from this office,” in the statement.
The decision means that the timetable for any possible charges remains up in the air.
(This is the System we Live in and Allow to Live.. smh, Let’s she what this “Special Prosecutor” does)