Family is truly a beautiful thing.
I watch a lot of children shows seeing as that my niece has just turned three years old…. &&& I don’t understand why there are little to no children’s television shows with African American children as the main character. Or Pakistani, Or Sundanese, or Nigerian etc…. I wish the OWN network or BET would pick up a few shows that would help instill self esteem and self love into our African American youth. I would hope they would focus on the fact that African Americans come in all shapes colors and sizes and each one is unique and beautiful in their own way. The one exception to this is Little Bill which aired on Nickelodeon Jr. from November 28, 1999 - February 4th 2004 and is still re aired on Nickelodeon from time to time; and now Doc Mcstuffins which now airs on Disney Jr. We need more than….
SELF LOVE, SELF WORTH
He’s asking me to settle.Very subtly with his words. More overt with his actions. Not settle in or settle down together… he’s asking me to settle for less, less than what I deserve.
He is asking me to settle in Love….. Not gonna happen.
How are we supposed to be Kings & Queens if we dont understand are own crowing glory?
You were seasonal after all.
If you want to truly understand someone find out their motives.
Something that causes someone to act in a certain way or do a certain thing = a motive
You will be surprised at what you find within people and what you don’t.
Take a look around you. All the people in your day to day life are there to teach you something.
I had some interesting thoughts while washing dishes. I was thinking about fathers and how important it is for them to teach their children to finish what they start. Actions speak louder than words on this one. A father can easily show his children to finish what he/she starts by adressing his responsibilities in the family he started…..By showing true love. In some families we see the father abandon his responsibilities for whatever reason and leave a gaping hole in the child’s life. Fathers are so important to the family dynamic. I hope that all the fathers out there are teaching their sons/daughters to be people that finish what they start and to seek individuals who do the same. Fathers are to be celebrated. We need more real fathers. Its never to late to be in your childs life & I cant think of anything that can bring you more joy. Food for thought…..
This spoke to me.
Im trying not to reblog every post this man puts up. LOL But goodness America needs to see it.
By: Pat Parker
The first thing you do is to forget that I’m black.
Second, you must never forget that I’m black.
You should be able to dig Aretha,
but don’t play her every time I come over.
And if you decide to play Beethoven — don’t tell me
his life story. They make us take music appreciation, too.
Eat soul food if you like it, but don’t expect me
to locate your restaurants
or cook it for you.
And if some Black person insults you,
mugs you, rapes your sister, rapes you,
rips your house or is just being an ass —
please, do not apologize to me
for wanting to do them bodily harm.
It makes me wonder if you’re foolish.
And even if you really believe Blacks are better lovers than
whites — don’t tell me. I start thinking of charging stud fees.
In other words — if you really want to be my friend — don’t
make a labor of it. I’m lazy. Remember.
From Movement in Black by Pat Parker. Copyright(c) 1978 by Pat Parker.
For some us the words “Tuskegee Airmen” do not go far without remembering the “Tuskegee Experiment.” It is very difficult to separate these two pivotal events in African American history. Anthropologically speaking, the questions I have, are how do histories of pride and shame affect culture, specifically HipHop (African American)?
On one hand, we have the Tuskegee Airmen, a group of men who exhibited tremendous courage and pride while fighting foreign enemies in the air and domestic enemies on the ground. On the other hand we have over 600 people who became the source of syphilis in the African American community for generations as a result of the government-sanctioned Tuskegee Experiment. While the story of brave fighters has inspired generations of people who are confronted with discrimination, oppression, racism and sexism to become airplane pilots; the systematic infection of African Americans between 1932 and 1972, has impaired generations of people with paralysis, blindness, dementia and shame. HipHop and all the other African societies, on the African continent and throughout the diaspora, oral history is stronger than any print, visual or digital media. Not only are folk tales, songs and poetry transcribed from one generation to the next, but entire histories of peoples, nations and events are accounted for as well. Other than just names, places and dates, historical particularism helps account for the emotions and feelings that are emphasized in storytelling and cultural development.
The Tuskegee Airmen have always been talked about in the barbershops, church services and one-on-one conversations with elder veterans who are still alive to tell these stories from their own personal experiences. More than the any media or public education source, oral histories is where the pride is really transported between generations. These examples help children and adults hold their heads up high with knowledge of the past that encourages them to move forwards in the faces of adversity. Educational systems (mainstream and independent) and curricula are instated to provide further encouragement. The good stories become the benchmark for “Black History Month” every year.
The genealogists, family historian and black people who are interested in “tracing their roots; uncovered these stories, simply by talking to the elders in their families and communities. These researchers have no problem extracting the prideful stories, but when it comes to the painful or shameful stories it’s always a “family secret”. The “V.D.” as it was so colorfully referred to was only the beginning of the battles with sexually transmitted diseases in many HipHop communities in the southern and northern United States. The definitions, symptoms and treatment of STD’s are widely discussed in the health classes in both mainstream and independent educational systems. It is always the talk of the town, the beauty shops. Everyone wants to know who got what and from whom. In many cases, people who have and are infected will not talk about it openly and may even keep the information from their sexual partners. It is so shameful, that people will carry these secrets to their graves, allowing other people in the community to remain unaware of the dangers of sexually transmitted disease from a first-hand account.
Although it is not known if any of the Tuskegee Airmen actually had syphilis, but it is very plausible considering the large base of infected people at the time. Keep in mind there were no positive treatments until the 1970’s. Furthermore the stories and oral accounts will always focus on the courage and pride of these men, but if any one of them was infected with the disease, before or after the war, it will be kept as a “family secret” and not rendered to the historical or public record.
Where is the real historical lesson in that? If we are only feeding ourselves with joy, we are doing the children and ourselves a major disservice, because joy and pain are one in the same. Pride does not exist without shame. Yeah let’s tell the children that there were great airplane pilots who fought in World Ward II, but let’s also tell them about the history and origin of sexually transmitted diseases in African American communities.
Let’s tell the stories to install pride. Let’s tell the stories to reduce shame.
I leave you with the immortal words of the old skool R&B group, Frankie Beverly and Maze
Over and over you can be sure
There will be sorrow but you will endure
Where there’s a flower there’s the sun and the rain
Oh and it’s wonderful there both one in the same
Joy & Pain “Joy & Pain” (1980)